How It Works

One On One Personal Coaching
for Teens & Young Adults

We Listen: to the worries of the parents. To the teen's/young adult's beliefs in what they see as their truths.

We Will Be There: as a coach and mentor, we are present to help both the client and the family find a safe place to be heard. Part of understanding anxiety in young adults and teen depression is allowing those affected to share their real fears and issues (versus the daily circular battles) and let the clients talk about their goals, their challenges and the first signs that would indicate success.

We Create a Personalized Program: This program is based on what the life coach has heard, what the young adult chooses as goals and the path that will let them grow towards those goals. Sometimes the route is direct. Sometimes it takes unusual twists and turns.

Our method is based on motivation and inspiration. You may have already tried some of these following methods:

Personal Coaching For Teens & Young Adults
The Three Methods: To help a young person build a new path toward success can be done through one of three ways:
  1. inspiration and motivation: employ innate talents to create a daily discipline to build self-worth and self-actualization by minimizing depression in teens/depression in young adults, anxiety in teens/anxiety in young adults and addiction in teenagers/addiction in young adults.
  2. behavior modification using talk therapy, medications, hypnosis or neuroplasticity manipulations.
  3. breaking the child's spirit through off-site aggressive techniques.

Although method two and three can work in the short term, true change requires a system that inspires and builds inner-discipline that is self-directed. That system is Real Life Coaching and it will help a client towards long-lasting change as a self-aware individual.

Our Method
  • Sessions are held twice a week for one full hour each, either in person or on Skype.
  • The client chooses daily exercises that they are willing to do for between five and fifteen minutes each a day.
  • They fill in a daily schedule of how they have done and bring this to their life coach either physically or virtually.
  • What they learn from the schedule system is what works in their day-to-day life. Things that help them to succeed at tasks and to become aware of what throws them off from being in charge of themselves such as depression in teens/depression in young adults, anxiety in teens/anxiety in young adults and addiction in teenagers/addiction in young adults (such as pot addiction and video game addiction).
  • A system that is free of judgment. It is a self-discovery system where the client chooses their remedies (with guidance). This works every time!
If you would like to know more or see if this system would work for your teen or young adult, please contact us for a free 15 minute consultation.
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One On One Parent Coaching

There are four ways we can offer support for each parent who is interested in trying to help their child rise above the challenges in their lives.

  1. Have us be the Life Empowerment Coach for your child.
    This is the main reason people call us.

    Real Life Coaching is system of guidance and mentoring that approaches the child as a partner in their quest to find their way out of whatever hole the have ended up in. It helps young people use their innate strengths to set realistic short term goals, create a daily routine that they can achieve and be OK with a process that will require dealing with the mistakes and failures that come along the way as well as the successes.

    This non-judgmental approach lets them assess, and re-invent approaches with their life coach, letting them walk their own path while avoiding the dead ends including teen depression and teen anxiety that will follow them later on in life and become depression in young adults and anxiety in young adults.

  2. Let us help you get your child to consider Real Life Coaching.
    Half of the parents who meet with us and wish to proceed have no problem getting their children to meet with us and decide for themselves if this system will be right for them.

    But for the other half, getting them onboard can be a challenge. We have experienced all sorts of resistance in the past from this second half of potential clients and we can offer you a series of ways to help your child get to the plate so that we can then see if this is the right system for them. Our success rate with this is about 80%.

  3. Work with us to help you survive the day-to-day frustrations that come up in dealing with a young person's challenges.

    So many parents these days feel alone in dealing with a child who is not thriving in this ever-changing world.

    Whether it is an issue such as homework, hygiene, communication, anger, pot addiction, videogame addiction, etc., once you are working with us, you are part of a team that is there to help deal with the day-to-day frustrations. Part of our long-term strategy for growth is helping parents and their children learn to communicate and co-operate.

    We have 100% success rate with this for the parents willing to come in (or Skype) occasionally and create a new, positive family dynamics.

  4. Learning to be a Mentor through Real Life Coaching.

    The Mentor's Workbook and the upcoming Mentor's Webinars are a forum to talk about the many challenges that parent's and life coaches of young adults face today. We also offer outside-the-box ways of empowering these young people to succeed while giving tools to all sides to master the power of active listening and meaningful, constructive communication.

    If you would like to know more or see if this system would work for your child, please contact us for a free 15 minute consultation.

If you would like to know more or see if this system would work for your teen or young adult, please contact us for a free 15 minute consultation.
Contact Ken Rabow

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How the Professional Mentors Training System works

Each Degree has three steps. The below is a sample of the 1st Step structure:

Part One

One Weekend of training all done on Skype in the comfort of your own home.

Friday

7:00 to 10:00 p.m. The Secrets to Becoming a Professional Mentor

Saturday

10:00 - 1:00 Main Principles 1
1:00 – 2:00 Lunch Break and chat
2:00 – 4:00 Practice 1
4:00 – 5:00 Review
5:00 – 6:00 Q&A

Sunday

10:00 - 1:00 Main Principles 2
1:00 – 2:00 Lunch Break and chat
2:00 – 4:00 Practice 2
4:00 – 5:00 Review
5:00 – 6:00 Q&A

Part Two

12 weeks of hands on practicum with weekly lectures and interactive MIT (Mentor in Training) labs

Two hours each week with Ken on Skype:

  • First hour is delving into deeper understanding of that step's work with clients.
  • The second hour is based on issues that have come up in your practicum that week along with a Q&A session.

Part Three

Written evaluation and a 15 minute live certification exam

On your ED (evaluation day), you will:

  • First share your written client evaluations and write a short test.
  • You will then watch other MIT's (Mentor In Training) do the 15 minute certification exams and do yours.

Your results are sent to your private email within 24 hours.

Once you have passed these three parts you will receive your first step certificate.

When you attain the three steps of your Mentor Level, you will be a certified World Wide Youth Mentor with high visibility through our websites and your own Mentor's Page www.RealLifeCoaching.ca/YourName

Clients will be able to find you through our nation-wide promotions.

You will have access to furthering your learning with sessions with Ken and Mentor-based discussion groups.

This is also a path of personal self-discovery for yourself as a Mentor. You have to walk the walk if you are going to talk the talk. It requires tackling something that is challenging in your own life as well: anxiety; low-self esteem; procrastination; communication issues; addictions; whatever it is that you wish to rise above, you will do it supported by a community of Mentors and with Ken's help as well.

It really does take a village!

PLAN OF ACTION
  • Share this with someone who would be a perfect candidate to become a Professional Life Coach / Mentor for Young Adults
  • Book a Free 15 Minute Interview to learn how we can train you to become a Professional Life Coach / Mentor for Young Adults
  • Go to our sister website, Mentors Professional Workshop, to learn all about Becoming a Professional Life Coach / Mentor for Young Adults

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Case Studies

Unmotivated Young Adult shares his path to success with Ken Rabow.

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As to the following case studies...while these are examples taken from my experience with my clients, no one client's story is portrayed. Confidentially is the cornerstone of my practice and I would never betray the trust put in me. The examples are an amalgam of a number of real-life experiences and difficulties with which I am grateful to have been an agent of change. The emails are genuine but names and study/hobby details have been changed.


From "A" Student To Unmotivated Teen Girl

The Parent's Email:

"I was very interested in your website, as I am beside myself trying to help my 17 year old daughter.

A bit of history: she is the youngest of 3, with two older sisters. She was a very happy girl until about 14 years of age. Through 8th grade, her grades were great - A's and B's. Since 9th grade, her grades have been inconsistent.

She proceeded to fail to do her homework in class. She claimed not to know why she stopped trying. Her teachers have never been able to find a way to motivate her. Nor have we, her parents. We have tried asking if she needs help, as in a tutor, we've grounded her, taken her phone away, and more recently, at the OK of a counselor, paid her for grades. Even that is now not helping. She wants to handle things herself, but then does not. She gets angry when others try to help her, provide motivation for her, or set her up on a schedule of any type.

She has so much going for her. I don't want to see her waste her life and her potential. She doesn't appear to be anxious or stressed out. But she seems to fear success and the pressure she would feel to keep it up. That's what it seems like to me.

Any words of wisdom you have would be most welcome. Thank you."

15 Minute Consultation:

We determined that her daughter was a good candidate for Real Life Coaching. Her daughter and I spoke and we found common ground through music and the arts. We booked a first session.

First Session Work:

Please state three things you wish to work on:

Goal 1: Getting things done and organizing my life.

Goal 2: Not being pushed around to do things I don't want to do (communication).

Goal 3: Finding something to do with my life.

What would you say are some of the challenges you have to making these things be as you want them to be?

Goal 1: I'm lazy. Too much video stuff. FB.

Goal 2: I don't like confrontation.

Goal 3: I get bored easily. Everyone else does things better than me.

What would be a good indicator that you have made progress in each of these things?

Goal 1: When I can keep to a written schedule.

Goal 2: When I can stop saying yes to things just to get out of a lecture.

Goal 3: When I stick to something for a whole year.

Six Months Later:

X has been making great progress in self-esteem and communication. She has learned to say "Let me think about it" when she is asked to things she doesn't want to do and then her and I come up with an alternate plan that meets her parents needs and still stays within X's goals.

X is also keeping to her daily schedule. We found the secret to daily inspiration for her and it is working.

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Son Did Well in University But Is Slacking and Jobless

The Parent's Contact Email:

"My son, "M" just turned 27 years old is a good guy, but a slacker. (No drugs / No ETOH...just poorly self motivated!!) Things recently went from bad to worse...quit his min wage job without having another lined up. Has a certificate in graphic arts, but it got him nowhere. Real love is game programming. I am encouraging him to go back to school for it. A great opp. Need help motivating him for it. I am not trying to define his life, but instead get him on a path! Please help. I have your book...but need to present it to him in a kind way!"

15 Minute Consultation:

After trying several positive ways to encourage "M" to meet with me, we went to "plan D". All funds cut off unless he was willing to talk to me one time. It worked! "M" was stuck and ashamed of not having figured out how to make it "out there".

First Session Work:

Please state three things you wish to work on:

Goal 1: Quitting weed.

Goal 2: Figuring out what job I could do well with.

Goal 3: Getting organized.

What would you say are some of the challenges you have to making these things be as you want them to be?

Goal 1: I really like the ritual of it all. Anywhere I go I can easily make friends 'cuz there are always stoners around.

Goal 2: I've lost confidence in my ability to choose a good future.

Goal 3: I tend to start gaming and lose track of time.

What would be a good indicator that you have made progress in each of these things?

Goal 1: Not smoking on weekdays.

Goal 2: Doing a simple job I like. Preparing for something even better.

Goal 3: Getting something good done each day.

Six Months Later:

"M" succeeded in not smoking during the weekdays for a month but eventually started smoking every day again. He decided to stop completely for a month and see what happens. He is weed-free for 21 weeks and counting! He got a job at an upscale restaurant that trains their staff on business/restaurant skills. He's been voted "most promising" three months in a row.

"M" is finding the schedule is making it easy to get at least two good things done every day, even with his work schedule. I know what he is going to pick as his long term vocation but we'll wait and see if that is his "hero's journey".


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